Welcome back to another episode of Me and
my Money Tree. Today we’re talking about how I manifested my husband. This is
gonna be good. Okay so this is a topic that I actually have been wanting to
share because I intentionally manifested my husband and I haven’t really shared
this anywhere before but I figured since it’s just you know you and me I
figured I could share this with you. I want to take you through the
process of what I did in order to manifest my husband. I was first
introduced to the law of attraction by a friend of mine who had the book The
Secret and at first it seemed a little bit kind of weird to me that you could
just think about what you wanted and then it would come to you and I didn’t
really think that much of it obviously. But then things in her life started
really taking off she decided that she wanted to be a model, she started getting
modeling gigs, she decided that she wanted to move to another state, she
moved to another state. She wasn’t really sure how things were going to work out but
she knew that’s what she wanted to do and she started manifesting lots of
things into her life. When I saw that I was like okay well maybe I’ll
give this a shot. The thing that I really wanted and I had always wanted was a
long-term relationship with a really really good man and because I was and
still am very picky I didn’t want just anybody. I could have dated anyone, there were lots of people who were coming into my life who could have potentially been a boyfriend or someone to
settle for, but I really wanted a very very specific type of
person. And so I decided to use the law of attraction in order to manifest my
husband. Here’s what I did. The first thing that I did was I admitted that I
actually wanted a husband. I admitted that even though I was a ‘strong black
woman’ I didn’t want to be a ‘single strong black woman.’ I essentially got to
the point where I said, “Well if this is something that’s for me and it’s
something that will happen for me then first of all I need
to be intentional about it.” I need to admit and say I don’t
want to be single. And this was hard for me because I had this wall
up and I had this barrier where anyone that I dated or anyone that I
came across I had this face where I was just like, “well you know I don’t need
you right?” And for me that was tough for me to actually admit, “yeah,
I do need a man. I do want a man.” And the breaking point for me
was I was living on my own I had my own apartment, independent single woman,
and I was bringing in a bookcase from Ikea and I remember it being just so
heavy and I started crying because I thought, “well I shouldn’t have to carry
this thing in by myself. I should have a man here to be carrying
this thing.” And it was a lot more than just the bookcase. There’s always just that one thing that is the breaking point but
that was the breaking point for me. Eventually with the bookcase I ended up
just opening the box and pulling things out individually so I made it
work. But that was the moment where I decided okay well this is what I
actually want. So the first thing I did was I set that intention and I put that
intention out there and I admitted that this was what I wanted. And I think
a big part of that of why that worked so well is because there was a lot of
energy attached to that I don’t need a man statement. By saying I don’t
need anybody that I can do this on my own I’m independent like I don’t care
like if he comes if he doesn’t come whatever. I think that there was an
energy attached to that statement of well if you don’t need a man then okay
you won’t have one. You get what you ask for and what you seek you’ll
find. And that’s essentially what I had to do. I had to release that energy. So
the next thing I did was I opened my heart and I started dating and I
essentially fully put myself out there. I have always been the type of person
where I try to hold back or try to prevent myself from getting in my
feelings getting too close to someone but in this case I was like well if
this is gonna work I can’t look
at every single guy and think is he my husband or is he not? and
try to evaluate I really just started going with the flow I just
started dating. I started enjoying myself and I really put forward the
intention that I would have been doing if I knew that that person was my
husband. I just you know basically said if it’s not you
it’s going to be the next person and you’re going to show me. I’m not saying that to
the guy but in my head. You’re gonna show me if you’re the
one and if you’re not the one then that’s fine like I’ll just move on. So I
didn’t have any sort of desperation energy or any sort of energy
of well I need to make this work or or even asking them, “Are you the
type of person that does this?” or “Do you do this?” or “Do you want kids?” I
stopped asking all those desperate type of questions and I just kind of went
with the flow I thought well you’re going to show me if you’re the right one
for me and so that allowed me to bring a
completely different type of energy to all the dating that I was doing. It was
much more fun it was much more flirtatious. Honestly I feel
like it made me a lot more attractive and even while doing that I was able to
quickly determine who was there and wanting to win my heart over. Just
because I gave it my all I still didn’t fully give my heart. I made them work for it I made them work for my heart, I
made them work for that attention I would give a little bit and then I would
look for what was reciprocated and if there wasn’t a whole lot reciprocated
then I thought okay well you’re showing me that that you’re not interested.
That’s how I went through the process of trying to figure out if this
person you know was the right person and it really came down to you know what I
saw in them and what kind of response I was getting back from them. And then the
final thing that I did after setting my intention and after really giving my
attention to it is I actually wrote down a list of requirements. I want to
share this with you because I think it’s really really important also the date
that I wrote it down as well as the date when I finally met my husband and then
I’ll share our story of how we actually met and how everything came together.
Because I really like the story, I really enjoyed living it and I’ll love reliving it
here with you. I’d love to share that with you. Let me read you the
requirements that I wrote down for the man of my dreams.
I’m just gonna pull it up on my phone. I have it in my notes. I never deleted it
and I go back to it often because it makes me really excited to read it and
know that I wrote it down and and then he came along. This was written January
23rd of 2011 and I finally met my husband in October of 2013 so it was
basically two years and ten months later. I don’t think that there’s a
specific timeframe that these things can and will or will not happen but
for me it was almost three years after writing this intention statement down
that everything actually came into fruition for me. Here’s what I wrote:
The last time I described my dream guy he actually appeared and I had a
great two-year relationship with him. Now that I’ve learned what to do and what
not to do I think I should refine my description. Here’s what I included:
Tall. Must love Jesus with all his heart. Great smile. Makes me laugh. Nice to
others. Smart. Ambitious. Potential or they’re already. Loves his mom. Likes to
be outdoors and work out. Likes to cook or at least can put something together.
Settled. Mature. Steady. Good at balancing out my energy and stamina. Giving.
Generous. Loves kids. Now that my list is complete where would this type of guy be
hanging out? And that’s the million dollar question. I wrote that down in
January of 2011 and it’s funny because the last edit on this is actually August
of 2013 which is two months before I met my husband and I don’t even know what I
was doing at that time. I wonder if I was coming back to it to read it again
because I got to the point where I was a little frustrated or I think I actually
might have been dating a guy at that point and I was trying to figure out if
he actually met the requirements. Here’s the story of how my
husband and I actually got together. I’d love to share this with you. We met at a
conference for personal finance nerds called FinCon: where money and media
meet and at the time I was actually dating someone else. We met in St.
Louis and when I was going to St. Louis I was actually going to St. Louis to
talk to the guy that I was dating at the time and things didn’t
work out with me and that guy. Actually that’s a long story that is
not really necessary for me to recount but he just he wasn’t the right one. And
I remember coming back to the conference so disappointed and I was actually
crying because of the what had happened that same night. I remember not
wanting to do anything else at the conference, not wanting to participate. It
was the closing party I didn’t want to do anything I just wanted to hang out in
my hotel room and get under the covers and basically be disappointed
that the next guy that I was dating once again wasn’t the one.
I remember that moment telling myself if you don’t go to the closing
party then you’ll be disappointed and not only that but you will forever
remember this conference as the conference where you got dumped. As
the conference where you broke up with this guy. As the conference where you were
disappointed and crying in your bed and I never wanted to remember that
conference like that. I said you don’t want to regret this moment so get
dressed put your makeup on and go have a good time and go chat with all of your
friends! You you have friends at the conference. Just go hang out. I did
that. I got dressed I put on a really nice dress I put on my heels everything
that I had promised myself that I was going to wear that night for the closing
party. I went downstairs out of the elevators. And the way
the hotel was set up there were two elevator banks. I came out on this
side and then my now husband – at the time friend – came out from the other
side. We had already been hanging out during the conference. We went to a
couple of meet ups and things like that. So we had already been chatting during
the conference it wasn’t like this brand-new “oh like here you are.” I came out of my side of the
elevators he and he happened to be coming out of his side of the elevators at
the exact same time. And he looked at me and he said, “Wow, you look really beautiful.” he said “You look too beautiful to be
walking by yourself, can I escort you?” and he gave me his arm and I wrapped my hand
around his arm and at that moment I was like this is what I’ve been waiting for.
This is the treatment that I’ve been looking for. I thought if I have a
choice I will never let this arm go ever. We walked to dinner because
before the closing party we were having dinner first and then the
closing party. We walked to dinner and we sat beside each other at dinner and
we had a chance to chat a little bit more. Honestly I wasn’t in
the frame of mind of looking for someone else. I still was a little
hurt from what had happened earlier. We were just chatting.
I thought it’s my friends I’m talking with all my friends. I remember one of my
friends at the conference had caught my eye during dinner and she pointed to us
and she mouthed ‘you guys’ and I looked at her and I was like no. And I really
didn’t think anything of it. So after the conference ended we went to the closing
party and I thought okay I did my duty I hung out with my friends
and I thought okay I’m ready to just put this city behind me. After the
closing party we got back to the hotel or whatnot and it was time to pack up
and go to the airport. I remember that I went to the airport early because
I didn’t want to hang out in the hotel lobby with everybody else was at
the conference and chat about how fun the conference was because I
still was just a little bit bummed. So I went to the airport early I was
there like three hours early I think and at that time Romeo my husband Romeo
texted me and he said, “hey I don’t think we got a chance to get a picture
together. Are you still here?” And I said yeah I’m in the
airport. He was like oh I’m in the airport too. He asked
when does your flight leave? and I said well it doesn’t leave for a
couple of hours I got here really early. And so he said do you want to be my guest in the airport lounge and he said I’ve got an extra ticket. I said sure no problem. He said we have food. I went and hung out
with him in the airport lounge and we had a chance to chat a little bit more
and actually get a little bit more in depth on the subject of
relationships and relationships between men and women and I remember
thinking wow he’s gonna be a really good friend and he probably will be able
to help me as I continue dating and looking for the one. And so I
really didn’t think anything of a long-term anything with him. I just
thought we’re gonna be friends. And at that point I was still thinking my guy is coming along but right now I just need to be by myself. I need
to rest relax, get over this last thing and just do me. You
know how after relationship you’re like well I’m just gonna do me, right?
That’s where I was. And I remember after we flew
out to our respective cities he said let me know once you
get back once you guys touch down and I’ll let you know the same. I said okay no problem and he said “keep in touch” and everybody says
keep in touch especially after a conference. They’re like yeah you know
keep in touch. I was just like okay I texted him when we touched down in
Atlanta. I said hey I made it back to Atlanta and his flight had returned
around about the same time. He said okay I just touched down in Charlotte
and I said I’ll talk to you soon.
Long story short because this is getting a little long. Long story short, I started
reading his personal finance blog which was a lot about money but it was also
about personal relationships that people have with money and all of that. I
remember there was an article on there that I read and I was like oh I have to
talk to him about this. I sent him a text message and then he said well I
don’t really text let’s just get on the phone. I said okay fine that was the
first day we started talking on the phone and then every single day since
then for the rest of the year we talked on the phone every single day. We
FaceTimed after a while, we started FaceTiming and we FaceTimed every single
day. We never ran out of stuff to talk about.
We were always constantly chatting and laughing and I remember
thinking, “Wow, I really like him.” By
the middle of November he had some time off of work and he said
“I’ll come out to Atlanta to see you.” I said okay cool so he came out to
Atlanta. And this is the moment that I knew that he was the one and
nothing was going to stop me from locking him down. We went to a chili
festival with a couple friends and I remember we were chatting in
the whole group. But I wasn’t really talking. I was doing my
introvert thing and just standing to the side and listening and letting them talk. But my mind was somewhere
else. And I remember he took my arm and pulled me to the side
and we just started chatting. Just he and I and the rest of the world just faded
away. And I was just staring. I was melting staring in his eyes and I
remember thinking this is it. I’ve always been
distracted with other things. No one else has been able to capture my
attention the way that he did and once he did that I thought this is it. I’m
going to marry you period. I don’t care if you know it yet but imma
marry you. Long story short we continued to chat. We continued to get to
know each other and by March of 2015 we were married and celebrating our union
together. That is a little bit longer of a video than I normally do but I also
wanted to share the story of how we actually met. I really hope that you
enjoyed this if you have any questions about manifestation or law of attraction
it’s something that I truly believe in. I really feel that I can create my
life. It’s the reason that I started Creating Coins. I believe that you can
create money for yourself you can create wealth but you can also do this in other
areas of your life. I believe manifesting and law of attraction is
about setting the intention and then following your soul guidance on the
actual actions to take. I don’t think that it’s just sitting in a room and
thinking and saying this is what I want. But I think it’s
after you set your intention now you’ve got to listen and take the actions that
you’re meant to take. I’d love to chat more about this if you’re into all the
woo. Thank you so much for joining me again for another episode of Me and My
Money Tree. I’ll see you guys in the next one. Don’t forget to love this video,
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